Today I draw my knees into my chest and protect my heart.
I recognize that my normal posture is one of an open heart. I stretch my arms behind me and lift my chest, sharing that space with the world. A Care Bear stare, if you will.
Today, my heart needs to be encased and covered.
The weight it has been bearing through the creation of The Firecracker Calendar Project was great and beautiful. I have the names of survivors written on my heart like tattoos. I can see the letters scribbled along the walls beating my blood.
Their stories were heartbreaking and their bravery overwhelmingly courageous.
My breath was stolen, tears came often and I found it difficult to speak.
I am making this sound so terrible. It was not. It was truth cracking open and spinning through the rooms we shared. It was acceptance of the horrific and a moving into the brilliant.
I am probably not making any sense.
All I know is that although in reality the Creole Gallery was a perfectly appropriate space for our gallery showing, it was not large enough for the emotions in the room.
There wasn’t room enough for Chelsea’s spoken word piece. There wasn’t room enough for the moment a survivor’s foster parent thanked me for what I had done.
I replied, “Thank you for loving her.”
He said, “Loving her was easy. What you did for her was hard.”
Is there a room big enough for those words?
There wasn’t space enough for the youngest survivor in the room to smile under the crook of my arm and to be so loved by the other participants helping her down her own path towards healing.
The ceiling should have broken open and the walls should have fallen down to mirror all of the growth that was inspired by the experience.
Even in the midst of all of that incredible hope, light and empowerment, my heart ached. I still want to burn down the house and keep the foundation. For all that I am capable of changing; I cannot change the past for the beautiful men and women featured in Soulfire 2014.
I cannot change our past.
That hurts a little.
It hurts a lot.
I don’t like it. I don’t like it at all.
I have been side swiped. That car came out of nowhere. I didn’t really expect to love them so.
And now I do.
So of course, because I love them, my heart breaks for them and the things I want for myself, I want for them too.
I wish to honor their bravery but more than that, I wish I didn’t have to. I want to go back in time and rescue them. I want to barricade the entry to the path they were set on by force because none of them deserve to be here. None of us ever do.
I look at their intelligent, compassionate, determined, strong, brave, beautiful faces and I cannot accept that they were hurt.
It has been lovely to be the only survivor I know. It has allowed me to live in a quiet place where my wounds never brushed up against anyone else’s. It has afforded me a space where I only had to be intimate with my own injuries.
Isn’t that the strangest thing? I was completely caught off guard – heart open – and in they walked.
To know them, is to love them. Isn’t that a saying?
So my knees are pulled into my chest today. I am coaxing my heart back like turning egg whites into a fluffy, white puff.
It’s always better to know and by my calculations, that means it is always better to love.
Open and emptied out,