The fifth rule of Tuesday Girls to the Rescue is one fight at a time.
Listen to each other and be willing to give what you take.
I love a good conversation and when one starts, I can’t get enough. The connection made, even in disagreement when done correctly, makes my neurons fire. I love to find out how people tick.
However, when I am going through some sort of personal turmoil, I become this girl….
Did you click the link? Not yet. Okay, I’ll wait.
No, I don’t get thin and blonde. Have you ever seen In Her Shoes?http://rcm.amazon.com/e/cm?t=m0bdd-20&o=1&p=8&l=bpl&asins=B000CCW2P2&fc1=000000&IS2=1<1=_blank&m=amazon&lc1=0000FF&bc1=000000&bg1=FFFFFF&f=ifr Maggie makes everything about her. She steals her sisters shoes, borrows her car without permission and sleeps with her (almost) boyfriend.
By the way, Jennifer Weiner, the author of In Her Shoes is one of my favorite writers.
Have you ever been seated at one woman’s tale of woe? She never stops for a breathe. There are no solutions and nothing you can say to make it better. You are just providing the captive audience. A necessary role for all girlfriends to play at one time or another.
Sometimes making everything about you is fine. There will be times when you need to wallow and lick your wounds. It is difficult but even when you are hurting, once you seat yourself around that table it’s not just about you. It’s about every woman there.
I am contemplating this morning how that is possible.
We share, we console, offer advice and then we move on to the next. There is no timer. Just consideration. I think my friend Nichole is the reason. The more I think of it, the more I see her as our mediator. She keeps time for the group. I’m not even sure if she is aware of it. I just realized it now.
She is the one who gently nudges us from one woman to the next. I love that.
So there it is. Go get yourself a Nichole for your Tuesday Girls to the Rescue. THE END