Laugh

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Welcome to the February Carnival of Natural Parenting: Parenting Essentials
This post was written for inclusion in the monthly Carnival of Natural Parenting hosted by Code Name: Mama and Hobo Mama. This month our participants have shared the parenting essentials that they could not live without. Please read to the end to find a list of links to the other carnival participants.
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This morning I started my day with a long, hot shower.  It was luxurious.  It was a great beginning to a winter day.  I was planning my day in my head and having those thoughts we mothers have in quiet moments.  I time managed, inventory counted and dreamed a little.
While I was still in the shower, the bathroom door slowly cracked and as the warmth of the bathroom rushed out, in rushed my five year old.  In his hand he held a slightly crushed raw egg.  Apparently, it was about to hatch.
In this moment there were several thoughts entering my mind.
  • We don’t have chickens.
  • Where is the two year old?
  • How many eggs were about to hatch and where is all of that yolk?
  • Do I end my shower and race dripping down the stairs to see the carnage?
I then decided on the best course of action.
Never have I heard of a child, barring any terrible allergies to eggs, dying from egg yolks.  Carpeting can be shampooed. Little boys can be taught that eggs in the fridge don’t hatch.  My house is pretty well child proofed.
I need my shower.  I smiled and with a knowing giggle, I asked him to be gentle with the egg.
Two birds, one stone…no pun intended.
I finished my shower.
Hopefully the yolk would stay in the egg and my son would feel heard.
Once I did get out of the shower, I recognized that the carnage was really not that bad.  Their were no baby chicks wandering around just hatched.  There were a few cracked eggs on the old, commercial carpet covered basement stairs.  The refrigerator was wide open and the two year old stood in front of it chanting, “Hungwy! Hungwy!”
all and all, best case scenario.
I have been a mother for nearly eight years.  This is not the worst of my experiences but later, while relating to a friend, it was another moment of parenting that brought forth laughter.  Of all things that I have found useful as a parent laughter has saved me more times than any bouncy seat ever could.
It saved me when I lost my keys and then found them.
It saved me on the evening I discovered stroller beer.
It saves me when my toddler is a jerk or plays the game See Mom Run!
I laugh.  That is my super power.  That is my talisman against mean mommy.  When I am frustrated at my children for taking too much time to do everything in the morning and I yell,

GO BRUSH YOUR FACE AND WASH YOUR TEETH!

my son’s face begins to crack and we both laugh. I have never needed the accessories I buy as much as I have needed my sense of humor to get me through the days of poopy, whiny cranky.  As much as I think my laughter is my salvation, it is also a gift to my children. It provides a flexibility in our family fabric.  It creates an environment where silly dancing in the kitchen and rolling with our failures is a culture of our own.
It releases the tension of always getting it right and drapes a safety net below us all.
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Carnival of Natural Parenting -- Hobo Mama and Code Name: MamaVisit Code Name: Mama and Hobo Mama to find out how you can participate in the next Carnival of Natural Parenting!

Please take time to read the submissions by the other carnival participants:

  • Not Without Him — The love Starr at Taking Time shares with her husband is the foundation of her parenting.
  • I Cannot Imagine Parenting Without B(.)(.)bs — From an uneducated dreamer to a breastfeeding mother of a toddler, nursing has forever changed Kristy at Strings to Things’s relationship with her daughter and her outlook on life.
  • Raising a Child in the Internet Village — When Jenn at Monkey Butt Junction has a question or concern about parenting, she turns to the Internet. What did parents do before Google?
  • Partner in Crime and ParentingBethy at Bounce Me to the Moon can’t imagine parenting without her husband’s sense of humor – he brings her laughter and love every day.)
  • I Make MilkPatti at Jazzy Mama can’t imagine trying to mother her babies without her breasts, but she could do it if she had to.
  • New Perspectives Bring New BeginningsMJ at Wander Wonder Discover, who is a former authoritarian mamma, has gained perspective via parenting.
  • Time Out!Mrs. Green at Little Green Blog explores how time apart can increase your capacity to give unconditionally.
  • Unimaginable Without HimKristina at heyred designs is celebrating her amazing partner, without whom none of her parenting experience would be possible.
  • My Parenting NecessityClaire at The Adventures of Lactating Girl needs “me time” in order to be the Mama she wants to be.
  • Babywearing As a Way of LifeDarcel at The Mahogany Way talks about the benefits of babywearing in everyday life.
  • Parenting Partnership — Sometimes Abbie at Farmer’s Daughter doesn’t appreciate her husband enough, but she definitely couldn’t imagine parenting without his help.
  • Parenting EssentialsMomma Jorje loves her parenting products, but she needs you even more.
  • My Parenting Must-Have: SupportJoella at Fine and Fair wrote a letter to her daughter about the role that support from friends and family plays in her mothering.
  • It’s More Than Just Hair — Think doing hair is full of fluff? Too girly? Useless? Karli from Curly Hairdo Ideas used to think so too.
  • The Minimalist Parent — The parents at Living Peacefully with Children embrace a minimalist perspective when it comes to baby gear. A good sling is all they need.
  • Without My BreastsCharise at I Thought I Knew Mama can’t imagine parenting without her breasts; here’s why.
  • Loves Books, Loves PeopleSeonaid at the Practical Dilettante discovers that the library is a perfect fit for her family’s needs.
  • An Ode to the Maya WrapRevMama’s next child might be named Maya, because of her fondness for the sling.
  • Avoiding the Padded RoomPecky at Benny and Bex is here to testify that it takes a village to raise a child.
  • My parenting essentials, from Tivo to battery-operated monstrositiesLauren at Hobo Mama presents a list of parenting essentials you didn’t even know you needed (and probably don’t…).
  • Attachment Parenting Through Separation: It Makes It a Little BetterJessica at This Is Worthwhile talks about how she couldn’t survive her separation without attachment parenting and the bond it’s afforded her with her 3 year old son.
  • Parenting EssentialsDeb Chitwood at Living Montessori Now shares the principles she used to parent her children from infants to adults.
  • My Parenting Essentials — The things that are truly essential to Kim at In Desperate Need of Entertainment aren’t things at all.
  • I’m No One Without My Sling — How baby carrying is essential to the parenting of Jessica Claire at Crunchy-Chewy Mama.
  • I Cannot Imagine Parenting Without…Isil at Smiling Like Sunshine talks about what she needs to raise her children.
  • February Carnival of Natural Parenting — Through her experiences over the last five and a half years, Casey at Love What Is has discovered her most important tool for parenting is using her instincts.
  • CNP: I Cannot Imagine Parenting Without __________.The Artsymama discloses the one thing that gave her back control of herself as a parent.
  • Laugh Until I Cry — Laughing with her sons keeps Acacia at Fingerpaint & Superheroes connected and grounded.
  • I Cannot Imagine Parenting WithoutLuschka at Diary of a First Child realizes what the one thing she can’t imagine parenting without is, and it turns out it’s not a thing after all.
  • It Takes Two — Here are a few of the reasons why Jenn at Adventures Down Under cannot imagine parenting without her fabulous husband.
  • Stopping to Listen — Though it wasn’t easy at first, Knocked Up – Knocked Over cannot imagine parenting her daughter without listening first to what she is telling her.
  • The Essence of Parenting — There are many wonderful resources that make life easier for Michelle at the Parent Vortex to parent, but the essence is the relationship between parent and child.
  • What I Cannot Live WithoutSybil at Musings of a Milk Maker considers her computer to be a parenting lifeline.
  • True Blessings: White Noise and GrandparentsKat at Loving {Almost} Every Moment can’t live without her white noise machine and the support of her parents.
  • The Necessities! — What “stuff” does a natural parent like Lily, aka Witch Mom really need? Not much, it turns out.
  • Mama Showed MeMama Mo at Attached at the Nip writes about how parenting wisdom is passed on by example.
  • Ode to the Loo — For Joni Rae at Tales of a Kitchen Witch, the bathroom is her safe place, where she can take a minute to calm down if she is feeling touched out.
  • Go, Mama. Go!Andrea!!! at Ella-Bean & Co. has been able to integrate her many roles through her get-up-and-go parenting essential, exercise!
  • My Other HalfBecky at Old New Legacy realizes what a relief it is to have her husband parent alongside her.
  • Grace, Love, and CoffeeMrsH at Fleeting Moments realizes that lifelines can take the form of the profound, or the mundane. Both are ok.
  • Supportive Spouse, Check! — There are so many parenting tools and gadgets that are superfluous, but the one essential, for Danielle at born.in.japan, has been her supportive spouse.
  • Why I’m a BabywearerMeredith at Becoming Mamas reflects on the ways babywearing has enhanced her mama baby relationship…and made life easier to boot.
  • It’s Marvelous Out Here, Kiddo!Rachael at The Variegated Life can’t imagine parenting in the big city without the marvels of Prospect Park to share with her Critter.
  • Yes, Thank YouAmy at Anktangle offers tips on how to ask for and accept help, an essential for successful parenting.
  • Parenting Essentials Checklist: Mom’s Inner Rebel and Her Kids’ VoicesOlivia at Write About Birth reflects on raising global citizens and saying no to societal norms.
  • Eco-Mama Online! — An Eco-Mama living in the mountains of a nature island, Terri at Child of the Nature Isle finds it essential to connect to nature and to connect online.
  • Sorry, We Just Sold the Last OneNev at The Adventures of Lime confesses she missed out the day they handed out patience.
  • LaughTashmica at The Mother Flippin’ Blog reveals her super power, her talisman agains mean mommy.
  • My Priceless Parenting Resource — What do books, a magazine community, my mother and the local playgroup have in common? Lucy at Dreaming Aloud tells us…
  • The Gift of Shared TimeTree at Mom Grooves strives to experience the world from her daughter’s perspective.
  • Follow the GigglesDionna at Code Name: Mama can’t live without the sound of her child’s giggles – come watch her video and you’ll agree!
  • Can I Mommy Without Boob?Emily at Crunchy(ish) Mama shares her fears about weaning and losing part of that the mother/child bond.

10 thoughts on “Laugh

  1. Ah, I love this post – what an incredible wisdom to pass on to any mama, the value of laughter. I need to make little cards and post them around the house: “Hard day? Laugh!” “Messy clean-up? Laugh about it!” “Unidentified object in toilet? Laugh loudly!” It really does make parenting better :)

  2. Thank for the reminder I needed on a day like today when my son's world ended because he remembered he was sick for a friend's birthday party a month ago! There is a place for empathy for him, but Mommy needs to model levity.

  3. This was so funny! I love that they thought they were hatching chicks — and that you finished your shower first. Might as well, right? Laughter really does help us take things less seriously, and that's a very good thing.

  4. It is also the chink in my discipline armour though – the kids now if they can make me laugh when I'm telling them off that they'll get off easy! I love the beer in the stroller – only I'm not a big beer drinker – do you think I could get away with wine in a sippy bottle or is that starting to look a little desperate?!

  5. Excellent, wise words! I love the part about laughter being a part of your family's culture. We all need some of that kind of culture!

    And, stroller beer? I am intrigued, and must go follow that link :-)

  6. Loved this! It's such a good reminder to me that I could really choose to laugh more often in those moments where I get worked up instead. And I loved the visual of the “hungwy” child in front of the open fridge!

  7. You are hilarious and brilliant!! I absolutely need to read your blog regularly.
    “my talisman against mean mommy” is the best. I love it. I love a great turn of phrase.
    I'm so glad I found your blog!

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