It is finished.
Well, actually, it has all just begun. However, my blog break is over.
School. Derby. Work. Family. Friends.
Life is in full swing and not in that order.
It is not swinging on a gentle breeze. It is surviving gale force winds and wrapping itself around the poles that are struggling to stay cemented in the ground. This mad rush follows a difficult research period that has left me trying to find words for the things I experienced.
It is not that I don’t have the words. I do not have polite words. They are angry words complimented with a rich abundance of curses. I am sorting those feelings out and deciding where they belong.
I gave myself the gift of January to settle into a very challenging season professionally, personally and in the world of roller derby.
It was a wise decision.
My goals are big for this year and can easily be rattled off.
- Be more present with my family.
- Love my body
- Pass my classes with flying colors
- Raise more money for Nyaka than last year
- Train to skate like an athlete
- Start speaking publicly
- Do enough research to justify a research trip for my book
- Oh! And write a book.
Of course, this list is nothing more than the cliff notes version of the minutes, hours and days structured towards so many coveted accomplishments.
So far, I have a list of things that have developed in response to my goals for 2013.
- I have almost cried on my way to roller derby practice out of exhaustion. (I will admit that I was about to start my period.)
- I have stayed up far too late studying because I won’t allow myself to fail.
- I will be speaking at She Laughs VII tomorrow night to benefit the Women’s Center of Greater Lansing and decided the topic in a Microsoft shower moment this morning.
- I have chosen to eat and drink with health and fitness in mind.
- I am saying a big, fat, NO to opportunities that are not in the best interest of my family and our quality time.
I am uncomfortable. I am challenged. I am exhausted.
I can tell I am doing it right.
When have positive changes come with a big, cushy spot of comfort and ease?
It comes with hunger pains over those donuts someone brought into the office. It comes with the muscle aches of an injury slowly healing. Change comes with the awkward stagger in shoes that need to be broken in.
I am changing. We all are. Up and down, positive and negative we make changes.
It is what we are in the world. We are transient souls.
In the past, I didn’t make goals. I used to shrug them off as bench marks to an unavoidable failure.
I think everytime you look at yourself and decide that you need a change or a transformation you have to have faith in your ability to change before you can take that first step.
I believe that my list is not full of resolutions.
My list is a reflection of just how much faith I have learned to have in myself.
It is based on all the hopes I have for my future and a guidepost on my journey toward loving myself regardless of what value my past tried to dictate.
This is a new perspective for me but it fits.
Everything else is new. Why shouldn’t my perspective be too?
All of my faith, hope and love is invested in that little abreviated list of hope-filled minutes, hours and days.
I wish you enough faith in yourself to do the same.